I’ve been asked to write this blog so I am finally doing it. Many women email me and ask me how they can get over their break up with someone the easy way, and sadly I am here to tell you, THERE IS NO EASY WAY! Everyone goes through things differently in life so I can’t tell you how to handle certain situations, you have to decide how to cope.
Someone asked me if my man ever cheated on me could I forgive him. Now that’s one hell of a question. I know me, I am crazy and I will fuck someone up but let me be civil and get to the point of this blog lol. According to scientific studies, men were put here to be fruitful and multiply with as many women as possible. Does that mean as a woman you have to accept that, No! Now I am not saying I agree or disagree with this and I will explain my reasons why. THIS BLOG HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH MY PERSONAL LIFE, JUST VOICING MY OPINIONS.
It’s been 5 years since the worst day of my life….I think it’s about time I tell this story once and for all and get it out the way. I am in no way shape or form trying to bash anyone, just simply telling my side of the story and to let this be a warning for any young woman out there that may be deciding to make the same mistake I made. The crazy thing about the internet is, once something is on there, it’s there forever, and ever, even after you’re dead and gone…..listen to my story and take it as a learning lesson.
Before you make life changing decisions, THINK, you never know where you’ll be in 5 years. -Sheneka Adams
Do you ever look back on your life and wish you can take your pu**y back? Sorry to be so vulgar but seriously ladies, don’t you wish there was this one guy, or maybe guys you wish you never had relations with? We see it in the media all the time about ex boyfriends and lovers coming out the wood works claiming they had relations with celebs, wanting to release pictures, videos anything to get their 15 minutes. Ciara is dealing with it right now. Some guy she dated in high school, HIGH SCHOOL, posted an old photo of them on his instagram page to make himself look cool. Well dude didn’t realize that he looked like a serious thirsty clown by doing that. If your only claim to fame is that you had sex with someone especially in high school, your life must really suck. Celebs aren’t the only people who deal with this foolery, regular everyday women and MEN (fellas y’all too) deal with this as well. That one guy/girl whose claim to fame is that they slept with you. An ex who just won’t go away. A disgruntled lover who want’s to make your life a living hell because they have nothing better to do with their life but to try to make yours miserable. Well guess what, *cue’s Michael Jackson* “You are not alone”, I’m in the same boat with y’all.
You are not in love. Let me repeat, you are not in love. I am saying this multiple times because some of you need to finally acknowledge your situations for what they really are. Far too long many women have carried on with a relationship that shouldn’t be. You used “love” as your validation but things are not what you have presented them to be and you know it. Your agenda and/or your fears will not allow you to be real with yourself, your man, or the friends/family involved. I understand you “love” the guy as in you do care about him. Hey I love/care about everybody but I know very well that the deeper connection needed to sustain a healthy romantic relationship will not exist with everybody I “love”. So how about you confess what this is really about. Let the world know what is really motivating you to be in this relationship. Continue reading “You Are Not In Love, You Just Love What He Represents”